No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame by Janet Lansbury
Star rating: ★★☆☆☆ 2/5
Format: library paperback
Summary: A parenting advice book on disciplining toddlers.
Review: There are some helpful techniques in this book. A few I have tried since reading that have seemed to worked but that doesn’t make this a good book.
The book takes over a hundred pages to say the same things over and over again. It was frustratingly repetitive. The chapters would be titled different topics but they all said the same things. The author is originally a blogger and I believe that’s the media she should have stayed in. Because it does not work well as a book at all.
The author also makes it sound as though every misbehavior issue with your child is the parents fault. It makes sense in one way but on the other hand the way she constantly points to that and in such a condescending way is not great. It would make any mother with PPD even worse. But some of the conclusions seemed off. Like “oh the child is biting because he wanted to get in the car on his own this morning”, like seriously… That’s a damn stretch. Or that children sometimes ask for things but don’t really want them, they want to be told no. What? That’s such bullshit. Kids don’t ask for things because they want to be told no.
I took away some good tips, but not a whole lot to warrant a whole book. Most of the book is the author typing up emails she received from parents asking for help and her responses. It’s irritating. Especially since they’re all essentially asking the same thing. There’s also a lot of the author patting herself on the back. It’d be one thing if she said, oh this worked with my kids/the ones I worked with. But she published several emails from parents thanking her for her advice. Really dude? Take that shit out.
All in all, I don’t think this book was very helpful or well written. This is actually the first parenting book that I’ve read but it doesn’t incline me to pick out any more to read. Short online articles have been far more helpful. The author also quotes another parenting book so much I felt like she had no original thoughts of her own, she was just reiterating what she read in another book.
My biggest pet peeve, is at one point the author claims the song “My Favorite Things” is from Mary Poppins. Look, you have a blog, you know how to use the Internet. Just google shit because my favorite things is from The Sound of Music. It left me thinking if she can’t get where a song is from right, what is she getting wrong about all these parenting tips?
Recommendation: You’re going to get so much more out of just googling and reading articles than from this book. Not worth the time.
Challenge prompt: A book with an ugly cover